3 Dating Lessons To Learn From Tasha Smith

Tasha Smith appeared on “Hot & Bothered” with Melyssa Ford, where she revealed what practicing celibacy for 8 years taught her.

Before that, Tasha revealed that she had done a lot since the age of 14, from drugs to living a life of promiscuity. However, it wasn’t until she got born again that she realized how much she needed time to pull away from bad habits. If you would like to read more about this, you can read it here.

After carefully examining Tasha Smith’s interview, three dating lessons were highlighted to me that I’ll be sharing with you in this post.

Dating Lesson #1: Tasha Smith Was Able To Discern The Motives Of Men

In the interview, Tasha revealed that she tried dating, but it was short-lived because most men weren’t interested in putting sex on hold.

Abstaining from sex offers a powerful benefit: it provides clear discernment of a man’s intentions. You’ll gain insight into whether his interest is purely physical or if he’s serious about truly knowing you. (Check out my post HERE to learn more about this topic.)

It’s crucial to understand that when a man disrespects your boundaries—especially your choice for sexual abstinence—he’s explicitly revealing his true motives: he’s only interested in a casual “situationship.” When this becomes clear, be grateful he’s shown you he’s not the one for you anyway. This brings me to my next point.

Dating Lesson #2: Tasha Smith Discovered Women Weren’t Built For Situationships

“As women, most of us are really wives. We aren’t designed to be in situationships. We’re loving, kind, we cook. We’re caretakers to our friends, we take care of our man, just as a wife would.”- Tasha Smith

Everything God creates is with a purpose, including you. While I don’t believe every woman is called to be a wife, every woman undeniably has a purpose. Recognizing this inherent purpose is what gives our lives meaning and fulfillment. Plus, it helps you prioritize your time and energy on people and things that are truly worthwhile.

When you settle for men interested only in “situationships,” you’re setting your standards too low. This choice directly trades emotional uncertainty for your peace. Remember, God’s will is for you to live in peace.

Dating Lesson #3: Tasha Smith Self-Awareness Increase

“Celibacy gave me time with myself. It allowed me time to be silent within myself.”- Tasha Smith

Sex can easily become a major distraction. But choosing abstinence can significantly reduce those distractions, allowing you to focus more intently on personal growth, introspection, and self-reflection.

For me, I discovered I was turning to sex for a false sense of acceptance and comfort. This kind of self-awareness is a powerful lesson; it brings awareness to why we do what we do, highlighting our underlying motives.

Conclusion

Tasha Smith’s journey practicing celibacy provides a powerful framework for personal growth. It can help us better discern a person’s true intentions, recognize that we

are worthy of more than casual “situationships,” and deepen our understanding of ourselves.

Which dating lesson resonates with you the most? Let me know in the comments below.