3 Powerful Reasons to Stop Having Sex!?!
Are you tired of having sex only to feel empty or emotionally disconnected afterwards?
We’ve all been there: staying in something because it’s better than nothing, even if it’s just stretching out a situation that should’ve ended months or years ago. It fills the space, but it doesn’t fill the void. This often happens for one of the few reasons below,
- You have sex out of obligation. Deep down, you know, it’s the only thing holding the relationship together in the first place.
- You do it for a form of acceptance or approval. Sex becomes a coping mechanism where you seek to find self-worth, hoping it comes through a physical act.
- You believe sex will strengthen or deepen a bond. When all it does is complicate the situationship you’re in even more.
If you find that you can relate to one of these reasons, or maybe you find yourself relating to them all, know that you’re not alone. I’ve been guilty of every reason which is why in this article, I’ll be sharing with you ‘3 Powerful Reasons You Should Stop Having Sex‘.
Reason #1: You Gain Power Over Your Emotions
Abstinence can be a powerful way to gain control over your emotions. In case you’re unaware, sex has a way of hijacking your feelings. This is because every time you have sex, your brain releases two powerful hormones: oxytocin and dopamine.
Oxytocin, also known as the “cuddle hormone,” is the reason that after you have sex, you foster feelings of attachment. Oxytocin, also known as the “cuddle hormone,” is the reason that after you have sex, you foster feelings of attachment. Oxytocin hijacks your judgment. It drives you to cook his meals and fold his clothes before he’s earned the right. By creating a false sense of entitlement, this hormone convinces you he belongs to you—which is why you don’t just react when he steps out; you explode. This is also the exact hormone that helps induce labor and bond with our babies. Interesting huh? But that’s not it.
Dopamine, also known as the ‘pleasure hormone,’ is another hormone that’s released when you have sex.
This powerful hormone also plays a major part in hijacking your emotions and will have you craving or addicted to a person, even though they are toxic. However, when you close your legs, you cut the power cord to this instability.
When you take the wheel of your emotions, you gain the clarity to see a man for who he really is, long before the hormonal fog sets in.
Reason #2 Better Communication
As I previously stated, most women often give up sex in the hope that it will strengthen and deepen a bond, though sex isn’t the answer they’re looking for; communication is.
Communication has always been the key to help build trust, foster emotional intimacy, and the
security we naturally long for. Sex is a powerful tool but it was never built to carry the weight of our spiritual or emotional needs, just physical. This is why one moment you can have sex and feel close, yet feel completely misunderstood or emotionally disconnected the next. Here’s an article if you would like to learn more about why communication is the number one way to know if he’s into you!When you make it your business to replace sex with intentional communication, you set yourself up to build a lasting relationship instead of trying to establish one on a faulty foundation of lust and temporary chemistry.
Reason #3: Build Respect
Do you remember when I said that sex is often used as a coping mechanism for a man’s approval? Well, check this out: when you close your legs, the opposite happens.
Keeping your legs closed communicates to yourself and the men you encounter that you value and respect yourself and your convictions over temporary pleasure and earning man’s approval. Regardless of how much society places a high value on sex, you don’t have to succumb to prove yourself to no man.
When you stop having sex, it shows a form of self-respect because it requires sacrifice and intentional discipline. You’re communicating that you place a high value on intimacy, and a man who values you will recognize the strength of your boundaries and not feel intimidated by them. (If you want to know the secret of earning a man’s respect, check out my post HERE.)
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Closing
Abstinence may never be popular, but trust and believe, it will never lose its power. It has played a major role in empowering me to reclaim my identity, self-worth, and inner power through Christ.
By making an intentional decision to practice abstinence, you establish inner power to exercise control over your emotions, build self-respect, and emotional intimacy through communication.
