Did you know your attraction to toxic men is a reflection of what’s in your heart?
Many women are unaware of this truth and often irresponsibly point the finger while complaining about men.
….“All these men are dogs!”
….“They are all for the streets and nothing else”
I’m sure you’ve said this at one point in your life. But the real question I have to ask is “What’s in my heart that keeps attracting them?” As the saying goes, “When you point the finger, remember you have three pointing back at you. ” In this post, you’ll learn 3 undeniable reasons you’re attracted to toxic men.
Reason #1 Society Promotes Toxic Men
The reason you’re attracted to toxic men is that society does an outstanding job of perpetuating them. Good men are lame or boring and toxic men are more fun and attractive.
Toxic men are romanticized through black media on social media, movies, music, TV shows, and novels. Many celebrities and influencers who exhibit toxic behaviors are role models for many young people. To you, this may be female rappers like Latto, Cardi B, Glorilla, and Meg Thee Stallion. I also can’t forget reality shows like Love and Hiphop that perpetuate toxicity and influence our perceptions about men and romantic relationships. And this leads me to my next point.
Reason #2 Toxic Men Love Drama
Drama has a way of making life exciting, thrilling, and interesting. No one can escape it as it exists in every aspect of life. We experience it from family, friends, and work conflicts. Other forms of drama are social media and the internal drama we wrestle with daily. Drama is also in novels, movies, television shows, and sports. The difference is that some people have a healthy outlet for it while others have a toxic one.
Toxic men are magnets for drama. They will lead you in constant strife and competition with women because they always have women chasing them. This is not to say you enjoy being angry, but strangely, the emotional rollercoaster ride adds thrill and excitement to the relationship.
…you enjoy blowing up his phone or even going through it.
…hacking social media accounts gives you a sense of mystery.
….I’ll even go as far as to say you like arguing and “breaking up to make-up” because the sex is better.
These are all toxic behaviors and as long as you love them, you will always attract toxic men.
Reason #3 Toxic Men Crave Validation
As I mentioned earlier, who you’re attracted to reflects what’s in your heart.
Toxic men love for people to validate them and women who love attention flock to them. When you love validation, you will always need to compete or prove yourself to people. You will love the fact that the man you’re with has a fleet of women after him because being with him gives you a sense of importance. Your strong desire for acceptance will have you settling no matter how many times he cheats because a man is how you validate your self-worth and identity.
Validation isn’t wrong
. It helps us to feel supported and that we belong. However, there must be balance. Unhealthy validation is dangerous for your emotional, mental, and physical well-beingConclusion
As you see, your attraction to toxic men is deeper than what meets the eye. It’s a critical reflection of what is in your heart. Considering these 3 undeniable truths will help you break toxic cycles and develop healthier relationships and habits.
