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How To Respond After Being Cheated On?
Let’s be real: being cheated on is the worst experience I wouldn’t wish on anyone. It throws a bunch of messed-up feelings at you- anger, resentment, depression, and isolation. Plus, that sick, gut-punching feeling is like nothing else. GloRilla nailed it perfectly in an interview:
“It feels like your heart dropping to your butt”, only but…she didn’t say butt.
If you’ve ever been cheated on, you know exactly what I’m talking about. Most of us never caught the physical act of cheating, we find out through text, rumors, or just a bad vibe or feeling we can’t shake. The hardest part about being cheated on is not knowing how to respond. So, how does one get over being cheated on? Let’s talk about it!
HOW TO RESPOND AFTER BEING CHEATED ON
ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR PAIN.
Now is not the time to act tough and unbothered. If you need to cry, cry. Yell, scream- whatever you need to do to release what’s on your mind and your feelings. Just get it out. But, make sure it at a private place or people will think you belong in a crazy house.
Seriously, though, you must acknowledge the pain you’re feeling. Acknowledging it allows you to be real with yourself, and this helps you process it better and eventually get a better handle on it instead of lashing out.
MAKE A CONSCIOUS DECISION TO FORGIVE AND LET GO.
Forgiveness is hard. Letting go? Even harder. But here’s the truth: you’re stuck until you do both. You won’t be able to take any of the steps in this post until you make a real decision to forgive and let go of what happened.
Forgiveness isn’t about saying it was okay. It’s about freeing yourself to heal. And letting go? That’s about accepting that you can’t change the past, but that you can use it as an opportunity to learn from it and move on.
ASK GOD TO GIVE YOU THOUGHTS OF PEACE
One of the reasons you clicked on this post is that you have a great longing for peace of mind. Trust, God knows this, and this is why Jeremiah 29:11 says
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
You need to understand this: The real fight is in your mind. When those old memories or nasty thoughts about your partner try to creep in, shut them down. Don’t dwell on them. Don’t even entertain them.
Maybe it’s the image of the person your ex cheated with. The second you feel that anger or jealousy bubbling up, fight back with God’s words. Declare PEACE over your mind. Will it feel good? Heck no, probably the opposite. This takes serious discipline and mindfulness, but it’s the only way you can take control of your thoughts.
Choose to walk in the peace that not only He desires to give you, but also that you deserve.
REALIZE A MAN’S ACTIONS DON’T DEFINE YOUR SELF-WORTH.
One of the toughest things about getting over being cheated on is how we let it mess with our heads and make us question who we are. We often base our whole identity, our self-worth, on a relationship with a man. So when it ends, it feels like our world is falling apart. Yet the key to healing is realizing where your real identity comes from: Christ. He knows you inside and out, always has. He understands your needs and even why you connected with ol’ dude in the first place.
But your value isn’t tied to a man; it’s in Him. This was a massive shift for me when I came to terms with this. Even though being cheated on made me feel less, I learned that a man’s choices to cheat weren’t about me. Moreover, it helped me see cheating as more of a “spiritual sickness” than a personal attack. If you want to learn more about what I discovered about The Real Reason Men Cheat, you can read it HERE.
CONCLUSION
Getting cheated on is never easy, but it doesn’t have to break you. You can see it as a harsh lesson learned. Know that overcoming the pain takes time and intentional effort. As you take these steps as a daily part of your life, trust in God’s help, and you will rise above this and heal.
