Why A Man Can’t Love You And Still Cheat -

So, GloRilla was on Complex, and she was like…

“I believe a man can love you and still cheat. I think they really can’t help themselves.”

BELIEVING A MAN CAN LOVE YOU AND STILL CHEAT IS ROOTED IN A TOXIC MINDSET

I once subscribed to the toxic idea that all men are unfaithful, a belief that sadly many women share. This lie robbed me of the possibility of envisioning a healthy, committed relationship. It led me to believe that all men were destined to betray trust.

I recall asking my mother, with sincere frustration, ‘Why even bother with relationships if men are going to cheat anyway?’ She laughed yet I was DEAD SERIOUS.

However, I’ve learned that this mindset does more than excuse infidelity; it reflects a deep misunderstanding of love and a lack of self-respect.

The ugly truth is, that our understanding of love directly influences the men we attract into our lives and the quality of our relationships.

A MAN CAN’T LOVE YOU AND CHEAT BECAUSE LOVE IS HONORABLE

I recently published an article about the 3 Lies You Believe About Love. You can read it here to learn more about love! But back on topic.

Understand that Love is always considerate. This insight was and is still powerful to me. I became aware of this after studying 1 Corinthians 13:5, which helped me gain more clarity of love.

LOVE -“It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”
1 Corinthians 13:5

True love prioritizes honor, ensuring no shame or harm comes near a person. Consider a loving parent:

Would they neglect their child’s needs for their own?

Would they entrust their child to a stranger in a moment of desperation?

Or, would a loyal friend betray their bestie by keeping a secret that their boyfriend or spouse “made a pass” at them?

Genuine love compels us to protect and maintain the dignity of those we love. Honor is the tangible expression of love. A man’s actions will always reveal whether he truly honors you.

CHEATING IS ALWAYS A PRE-MEDITATED DECISION

A man in a monogamous relationship doesn’t just end up in bed with someone. This is because cheating is a deliberate, premeditated choice.

While the motivations behind infidelity are complex, it’s crucial to understand that cheating is a process. The process of cheating requires a man to consciously navigate inappropriate conversations, suppress guilt, and ultimately choose to betray their partner’s trust.

Cheating is not something that ‘just’ happens. It’s not an accident; but a pre-meditated decision.

Conclusion

Cheating reveals an extreme lack of consideration for a partner’s feelings and well-being. Even the remorse a man expresses after being caught reflects his disregard.

Can a man truly love a woman and still cheat? No. However, a distorted view of love can easily lead one to believe otherwise. Genuine love is inherently considerate

and honorable.