Do you know the #1 way to know if a man is genuinely “into you“? Or are you only familiar with men who only want to get “into you“?

Believe it or not, when it comes to dating, it all boils down to one of the two reasons why a man will be interested.

His motives will be behind one of these reasons to determine if he has your best interest at heart or not.

Sadly, I was ignorant of this truth. But I eventually figured out the men I was into were only in it for the latter. As Lyfe Jennings said in his song “S.E.X“, “They wanted relations, they didn’t want relationships..”

Many women are making this mistake so I decided to share with you today The #1 Way To Know If He’s Into You.

A Man’s Desire To Communicate With You Is The #1 Way To Know If He’s Into You

When I became aware of this truth, it made all the sense as it helped me understand that I didn’t value communication and most of the men I dated; didn’t value it either. Even though I desired communication especially when conflicts arose, the conversations were usually shallow and vague with no mutual mental or emotional connection.

Communication is important because it shows a desire for compatibility and connection.

When a man is willing to communicate, it shows his desire to connect with you emotionally, mentally, and not physically. This shows he’s into you because emotional and mental intimacy allows him to be open and vulnerable with you; something men often avoid doing. This is usually because they don’t know how to express themselves, fear rejection, or avoid honesty. After all, being honest requires us to be truthful about our intentions.

In regards to intimacy, most people only know intimacy through sex. Sex is only a form of intimacy, not intimacy itself. The problem stems from us trying to build an emotional and mental connection with a man through having a sexual one. This is why you can have sex and once it’s over, you will still feel disconnected from your partner. Your sexual needs may be met momentarily, but your emotional and mental needs are neglected.

Communication is the foundation for a healthy relationship.

It leaves no room for mind games. A man who’s into you will first and foremost be interested in getting to know you. And I’m not talking about the “know you” in which society has dumbed this down to sex. No. I’m talking about getting to “know you” where he’s interested in knowing you and where you stand mentally, spiritually, and emotionally.

He’s not hitting you up when it’s beneficial and convenient for him. You don’t only hear from him because you’re the one initiating most of the conversations. 

A man into you will value communication as it reveals his desire for emotional and mental compatibility and connection, over having a physical one. 

Can you identify ways of knowing if a man is into you? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

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